3.16.2011

On Making Your Own Decisions

I generally don't get too personal on this blog, but I'm just going to put this out there: I'm not a people pleaser. I'm just not. I'm not one to follow the crowd. I don't do things or say things or believe things because it's what I should do or because it's what is expected of me. Oh, and I'm a loudmouth extremely outspoken.

And a lot of people aren't comfortable with that. A lot of people would rather have things sugar-coated for them. I'm not a sugar-coater. I believe in being honest without being a total jerk, and also being honest without being a smiley kiss-ass.

Anywho, a few things have been weighing on me lately, so I'd rather just put them out into the universe and be done with it.

1. I simply can't stand don't like a fair percentage of my family. I don't get along with them and I don't enjoy their company. I'm a no BS kind of girl, and I refuse to put up with immaturity or two-faced-ness. I will never be nice to your face and talk shit about you behind your back. It's not my style. If I don't like you, chances are you know it. If I love you, you will also know it. I'm also not one of those people who believe that family is family is family. I believe that one should allow people in their lives that bring them positivity and happiness. I don't think you should allow Negative Nancies to bring you down just because you happen to come from the same gene pool. I am very happy with the friends and family that I have chosen to surround myself with. They make me happy. They believe in me. They uplift me. The ones that don't? Thanks, but no thanks.

2. I avoid talking about religion like the plague because I have differing views than most Americans, and I despise being preached to, but I will say this: I am not a Christian.  In all honesty, I don't know what I am, but I know what I'm not. I don't believe in the Bible or the Christian God. I like Buddhist beliefs, but I don't consider myself a Buddhist. I suppose the closest thing I am currently is agnostic. I believe that there's just no way to know. Maybe there is a heaven, maybe there isn't. Maybe we just go black and that's it. Maybe we come back as someone or something else. Who freakin knows. I just believe in questioning everything, and for me, Christianity just doesn't pan out. I believe "to each, his own". Christian? Great! Buddhist? Awesome! Jewish? Good for you! That's the beauty of faith, and that's also the beauty of having choices.

We're all adults, and we are all entitled to our own thoughts, opinions, and beliefs. Let's all stop judging and preaching and chastising people for their own personal choices, shall we?

Thanks for letting me get all that off my chest!

Has anything been weighing on you lately?

4 comments:

hemborgwife said...

I am 100% agreement on the family thing!!! I am moving quite a ways from my family and will probably never see some of them again and honest it puts a huge smile on my face!

Jessica said...

LOVE this post. I can relate on both levels.

Cathleya said...

I think you're just like most people out there, the difference is that

re: point 1 - lots of people don't like their families but don't feel comfortable talking about it so all you have left is the people that gush about how they love their families

point 2 - non religious people (or people that don't fit nicely into a specific religion) don't feel the need to be in your face about being non religious. People with religion have an underlying mission, that is, they want you on some level to believe what they believe, and therefore they typically speak out about it.

Clare said...

Totally agree with you about religion. I am the same way. I was agnostic for a while but started to have a really hard time with life/death questions so I decided to believe in God. As in, my own version of God and how I define that. I do not identify with any religion so I like to say that I am spiritual. It works right now and I think it is something that can change throughout your life time. I respect you so much for having your own opinion on this and not being afraid to voice that.